Chaos in the Freedom Fight: A Mom's Take on Infighting and How We Lead Through It

Topic: Life Lessons

Hey, Patriots! It’s me again—your mom-turned-freedom-warrior, typing this between laundry loads and late-night prayers for our country. It’s March 25, 2025, and while I’d love to say the freedom movement is one big, happy family, lately it’s felt more like a Thanksgiving dinner where everyone’s yelling over the last slice of pie. Infighting, egos, and clashing visions are stirring up chaos among us. As a mom who’s refereed my fair share of sibling squabbles amongst my three daughters (now 14, 10, and 7), I’ve got some thoughts on what’s going on—and a few leadership tips to help us pull together instead of apart. Let’s dive in.

The Mess We’re In: Why Are We Fighting Each Other?

If you’ve been paying attention, you’ve seen it too—the freedom movement isn’t exactly singing “Kumbaya” right now. Some folks want to burn the Dominion machines to the ground over a lack of election integrity, others are laser-focused on getting Tina Peters out of jail which is a VERY worthwhile cause, and a few are ready to tar and feather Pam Bondi because the Epstein client list STILL hasn't been released. Then there’s the personality clashes—big voices stepping on each other’s toes, accusing one another of selling out or not being “pure” enough. It’s like watching my kids argue over who gets the front seat: everyone’s got a point, but no one’s getting anywhere.

I get it—passion runs hot when liberty’s on the line. We’re not here because we’re lukewarm; we’re here because we care. But when we’re sniping at each other—calling out “RINOs” or “grifters” faster than we call out the real threats—it’s our own house that starts crumbling. Divided, we’re just handing the win to the folks who’d love to see us silenced. Sound familiar? It’s the oldest trick in the book: divide and conquer. And I’m not about to let that happen on my watch.

What’s Driving the Chaos?

From where I sit, a few things are fueling this mess. First, there’s the stakes—freedom’s not a small prize, and when the pressure’s on, tempers flare. Second, we’re a big tent: preppers, homeschoolers, truckers, vets, and keyboard warriors all want a say, and we don’t always agree on the playbook. Third, let’s be real—some of us (not naming names) love the spotlight a little too much. Ego’s a heck of a drug, and it’s tripping up good people who’d rather be king of the hill than part of the team.

As a mom, I see it like this: we’re a family with a lot of strong-willed kids. We’ve got different ideas about how to clean up the mess, but we all want the house standing at the end of the day. So how do we stop the bickering and start building?

Leadership Tips to Navigate the Chaos and Build Unity

I’m no general, but I’ve led my little tribe through tantrums and triumphs. Here’s what I’ve learned about steering a rowdy crew toward something bigger than ourselves—tips I think we can all use in this freedom fight:

1. Focus on the Big Win, Not the Small Scores
   Kids fight over who gets the bigger cookie, but they’ll team up fast if I promise a trip to the park. Same goes here—let’s keep our eyes on the prize: liberty for our families, not who gets the most likes or the loudest megaphone. Next time you’re tempted to call out a fellow patriot, ask: “Does this help us win, or just make me feel right?” If it’s the latter, zip it.

2. Listen Like You Mean It
   My teenager once told me she’d stop yelling if I’d just hear her out. She was right. We’ve got a lot of voices in this movement, and not everyone’s wrong—they’re just loud about different corners of the same problem. Leaders don’t shout over; they listen, then channel that energy into a plan. Try this: next meeting, let the quiet guy talk. You might hear something brilliant.

3. Call Out the Good, Not Just the Bad
   I’ve learned praising my daughter’s effort gets me further than nitpicking her mistakes. We’re quick to dunk on each other’s missteps in this movement, but what if we shouted out the wins instead? That trucker convoy last month? Epic. That mom who spoke at the school board? Hero. Lift up the doers, and watch the complainers either step up or step back.

4. Set the Table, Not the Throne
   The best leaders don’t crown themselves—they make space for everyone to eat. Too many in our ranks want to be the face of freedom instead of its backbone. If you’re leading, build a table: invite the preppers, the podcasters, the prayer warriors, and let them hash it out. Unity’s messy, but it’s stronger than a solo act.

5. Keep the Enemy in Sight
   My kids stop fighting when a thunderstorm rolls in—they know the real threat’s outside. We’ve got plenty of storms brewing: government overreach, corporate control, cultural rot. Every minute we spend sniping at each other is a minute we’re not pushing back against them. Remind your crew who we’re really fighting—and why it matters for our kids’ future.

A Mom’s Plea: Let’s Be the Family We Need

Look, I’m not saying we plaster on fake smiles and pretend we agree on everything. Families don’t work that way—ours sure doesn’t. But we can disagree without drawing blood. We can lead without lording. And we can unite around the one thing that got us here: a love for freedom that’s bigger than our differences.

So, patriots, what’s your move? Are you ready to lead like it’s your kitchen table on the line? I’m here for it, messes and all. Because if this mom knows one thing, it’s that chaos doesn’t have to break us. It’s just the fire that forges us stronger.

For liberty and family,
Toni Shuppe
Author, From Mom to Patriot

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